Had a rough couple of months at work and personally, hence no posts recently.  But at least my cat, Winston, loves me , lol

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How to know when to get out of sugar dating

Interesting question isn’t it?  How would a man or woman involved for a certain amount of time in sugar dating know when it is time to get out of sugar?  The answer could be as varied as the reason why people go into this type of dating, so there isn’t a single right answer that will suit everyone.  I started thinking about this because I received an email from a reader of my book ‘Sugar Daddy Diary’ who, after reading my reasons for exiting this lifestyle, was wondering when he should call it quits. Here are a few general reasons I can think of right away:

1.  You are a 40+ year old man who has done this for a few years, and while it is fun and entertaining to meet all these younger women, it does get a bit tiring.  I mean, how many nice dinners and activities (of all kinds) can you tolerate with random women before just simply getting bored?  And, unfortunately, it does get boring. Like most things in life. What are you going to do after you have visited twice the top 15 restaurants in your city already? Have bedded 50 women?  Sure there is always more to do and more women to meet, but I think we can agree its boring after a while. Or maybe I just have adult ‘ADD’ and need to thing  to keep my attention

2.  You were divorced after a few years of marriage and you wanted to play the field like you did when you were younger. So you fooled around for a while just to bring back the old memories and you dated some women 10 or more years younger than you. Now that has run its course and you ready to have a relationship again, this time with someone closer to your age.  You know this happened to me only the opposite way. When I was 26 I was seeing this 42 year old divorced woman. You know Italians are horny, so she taught me a lot :) But, alas, she decided she wanted to get into a real relationship. So she ditched her younger boyfriend (i.e. David)  for a 50 year old man. Go figuh! And at that time I literally had six pack abs. But clearly she wanted more, and that was fine.

3.  And now, here comes the worse motivation to get out.  This happened to an acquaintance of mine, and he told me this over drinks one day.  After spending too much  time and money of course with these ladies, his business life suffered, he wasn’t spending enough time at the office and his business went belly up. So he was forced out of the sugar life.  I always kept saying to people that the sugar life is very addicting with the nice men and women, fancy restaurants, money, parties etc. It is easy to forget and neglect what is really important.  I hope who ever reads this, whether a man or woman, never makes that fatal mistake.

Next time, I will deal with this topic from the girl’s standpoint.  And of course, if a sugar baby wants to chime in with her opinions and stories just drop me an email

Sincerely,

SD David

 

 

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Writing is good for the soul

Writing things down is cathartic, they say. It helps one understand what they are going through and also look at it from a more, shall I say, detached view point. It’s like history: you read about it, analyze and think about it and then you learn and grow as a person for that experience.  I am constantly amazed at the number of people who actually go through life without doing this, thereby never growing as persons.  If I think of myself when I first started this whole sugar dating thing, it simply started as a lark. You know, one of those things where you just figure you will try it once, and then try it twice if you like it and then move on to something else.  I don’t need a licensed therapist to tell me that I was being narcissistic and selfish in my desires.  I simply liked women too much, and I liked the whole scene and experience of flirting with them, taking them to bed, pleasing them sexually and watching their reaction while all this was going on. A great sociology study or experiment you might say. In that case the allowance became just a way to grease the wheels, so to speak. I found it interesting that you could basically stop most women of any age and background in their tracks with visions of allowances of other types of material things.  And still amazed on the things some women will do for material gifts.  So, I get that I was being selfish, we have established that.  What else was going on?  A reader of the blog emailed and asked if I was addicted to sex.  I don’t know if I was, I like to think that I wasn’t. I didn’t think about it all day or even every day. I did pursue it very vigorously though. Even when I found myself rolling my eyes and thinking ‘here we go again’ I still pressed on and saw those women.  A reader of my book sensed my dilemma and a certain sense of regret from my older posts and said ‘This will always be a part of you’. Fair enough.  Us men can argue it away, and we can also argue that we are still great family people etc etc but that’s just excuses. We were dogs and behaved as such, no two ways about it.  What fun it was though, good Lord.

One of them most interesting things I found was the different types of women that go into sugar.  Example:  I seriously don’t think that my better half would ever be a sugar baby.  She would totally frown at the idea of a man taking care of her, and accepting an allowance in return for companionship is against her nature. Most of women I met at work are also like that.  Looking at their personalities they would find this whole type of dating offensive.  The only way they would do this was under a condition of stress, like a job loss or an incredible once in a lifetime opportunity.  I knew a Chinese woman who slept her way to becoming a trader at JP Morgan. In her case she lucked out. Hope her husband don’t find out though!  So after socializing with dozens and dozens (and more dozens) of ladies I think I had developed a pretty good radar for who is the one that will go into sugar and who will not.  Don’t get me wrong though, I don’t look down on anyone.  I love everyone (there are a few exceptions). I just think it is a different type of woman that would go into sugar.  I think it is a worthwhile endeavor, especially if there are career benefits involved as long as you don’t meet abusive people.  It just not something I would recommend to my young female cousins, as society doesn’t look kindly upon this lifestyle. Also, I don’t trust most men that are out there as SD’s, to be honest.  Not everyone is a gentleman such as I, lol

Another interesting thing is that I still remember some women that I met.  I still wonder, for example, how my favorite pharmacist from San Fransisco is doing.  She asked me if these women changed my personality. They did in ways that I need to describe on a separate, special blog.

So now I am at the point whereby looking upon my history I cant believe I slept with so many women. Clearly, I overdid it, and I don’t think I would do the same things all over again.  My family always told me I have a compulsive personality to some extent.  So when I did some great stock trades I was all consumed by that.  When I taught myself  a foreign language, I was consumed by that. And then, when I got into sugar I was, you guessed right, consumed by that thought. As they say, go big or go home, right?  Right.  I wonder what the next big thing will be for me. More sugar?  Learning a totally new skill?  Yet another language perhaps? If so, which one?  I ‘ll take Korean lessons by a nice Korean woman if there is anyone around. Will pay market rates!

 

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How old is old enough?

As we age, we change.  True, obviously, both for men as well as women.  For the guys who are SDs, what is the age limit where this whole dating younger women thing gets a bit to old? (Pun intended!). Especially once we reach our late 40’s or 50 range. When should we call it quits? Just say ‘hey you know we had a lot of fun met a lot of people, now its time for the party to end’ How much is enough? It would be good to hear from readers. I know nowadays people live longer and healthier but still there has to be a time where we no longer have the need to prove anything, or re-live the good old days, or score one more or any of that. Too  much is enough?

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I remembered

It’s been  a long time since we saw each other, but I am glad she is ok. I figured she was ok from her Facebook page, we used to be FB pals.   I admit it was a long a long time since we last spoke, but I found myself going back to her page after a long time and looking at a picture to see what she looks like now. She still looks very pretty, and, since its been  a few years, she also looks mature and coming into herself as well.  If she saw me again, I wonder what would be the first thing she would tell me. Or me to her.  Who am I talking about? Some long time readers of the blog may wonder. Lol, I am not telling :)

 

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Don’t know

Here is an old one that I had saved off, from the Houston days.  When I fist got there, I didn’t realize that Houston had a sizable Indian community. Anyway, I met this 19 year old girl who was half Indian half Hispanic, so as you might imagine had some very exotic looks. Big brown eyes, mischievous smile, dainty mannerisms, quite nice overall. Even though she didn’t come from money she had class (You can’t just buy class you know, you either have it or you don’t) so I made sure I was on my best behavior. Things like good table manners, keep my hands to myself and not get too touch feely with here etc. Like a good little boy.  Cute body as well, and also had career goals.  So I was impressed. BUT: we ended up in bed and I proceeded to perform oral sex on her,  when it hit me that her nether regions had a potty smell. :(

That was a damper on future dates, so even though she kept texting I had lost interest. It was also during the phase of my life where I went through a different woman each week, so this was entirely my fault. Her nails were kinda dirty as well. Anyways, after she kept texting for a couple of months I just had to let her know I wasn’t interested anymore, rather than just trying to reschedule or get out of dates. She responded ‘If that’s you decision I respect it, don’t hesitate to contact me if you ever change your mind’. No drama, no nothing. Just pure class and dignity, even though I could tell she was disappointed because she kept texting and obviously wanted something from our liaison. Too bad I was ambivalent about her. Why? Don’t know

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