I started seeing other women because I was greedy. Greedy for companionship, greedy for sex, and greedy for seducing and being seduced. Polyamory is a thing … some people just don’t have the monogamy gene. I remember one of my work buddies telling me “Dave I couldn’t do this and be able to live with this”. So he slept with only one person for 20 years. I suppose I am jealous and wish I could do that too…be a one woman type of man but I am not. FOMO perhaps or just letting lust take the best of me. I love pleasing women. But it would have been nice to have sex with half as many women (still a big number) and have spent more time getting to know them and developing something. Like a very old song says: ..Stealing when I should have been buying..
This lady I met once told me that. She said “Well hun these all white and blond girls are ok but they are like white rice. They are ok but you need something spicy”. Nice way of putting it. They do (those I have met in NY anyway) tend to be a little bland. Although the ones I met in Texas or from the Midwest were a lot more passionate. What do I really like? I don’t care about color but I care about personality. They have to be at least a little flirty. If they just sit there clamming up drinking their wine and just talking about work that’s a bit lame. Then I get bored and start talking about the market and then we’re going nowhere sex wise. I admit that I do like Europeans although I am cautious about Russians and never done anything with them. But Polish or Romanian? Yes…
I know this post is all over the place but it’s a Sunday morning …still half asleep
I admit it. Sex was all I ever thought of since the age of 11 when I noticed an older girl’s pubes on the beach (she didn’t see me but she was changing in broad daylight, so I peeked). I became addicted to sex and the companionship of women. I wanted to please them and be pleased and it became a race to see how many I could bag. Or what fantasy or silly combination I would want to try with my next sex partner. I am embarrassed to admit my number. The only men I ever heard of that did more was these two guys, friends of friends, that traveled about the US having one night stands in every town and they were raving and betting against each other. They reached very well into the multiples of hundreds (if they were telling the truth). I am not into this anymore, and nowadays I am taking better care of myself at the gym and also emotionally and at work. And I have to say my stock trading has become a lot better as well. You know the only thing that bothers me sometimes: the one or two ladies that got away. Either they rejected me or I rejected them for reasons I don’t even remember. It’s not that they were so hot or nice to be with. It’s just the fact they got away, lol
I have a pet peeve (one of several ..). They say that men are visual creatures but I would push back on that. Women are just as visual and that can be proven just by the amount of times I have been asked for pictures via email or contacts from the various sugar sites, when I was active. “Can you send me a pic?” was one of the first things I was asked. So, it’s it just men that are visual. All humans are visual. I personally don’t care too much about pictures since I believe in personal contact. A picture is only two dimensional and doesn’t tell me anything about how someone carries themselves. It just shows how tall or short or skinny they are, or what color their hair is. But I don’t really care about those things too much. So you can understand why I used to get a bit insulted after one or two ladies blocked me after I had texted them a “discreet” picture with parts of me blurred out. And that was after we were having some great online conversations already. Why can’t people understand that someone who has a career or family may not want to step into the light ?
I have searched far and wide during my travels and adventures. Why is it so difficult to find a woman who can do this the right way ? I only met two in my whole life and I have found that most can’t even be taught. Something about timing, momentum etc
I blogged about this before a while back , but today this came back to mind as I was walking around midtown (my cardio exercise).
It happened right after I came back to New York from down South. I had only been here a month when I got a call from Tina my old friend from Katy, Texas. She was in NYC on her way to a family function in Maine. She had brought along her 6 year old son who proceeded to jump on me and being a cute playful little kid, as if I was his own father. And then we all went for a quick bite and everyone would treat us like a family. It felt awkward to me. And the awkwardness only went away when Tina asked me to get on my knees so I can fuck her doggy (her son was at another relatives room during that time). Interesting, no?