How old is old enough?

As we age, we change.  True, obviously, both for men as well as women.  For the guys who are SDs, what is the age limit where this whole dating younger women thing gets a bit to old? (Pun intended!). Especially once we reach our late 40’s or 50 range. When should we call it quits? Just say ‘hey you know we had a lot of fun met a lot of people, now its time for the party to end’ How much is enough? It would be good to hear from readers. I know nowadays people live longer and healthier but still there has to be a time where we no longer have the need to prove anything, or re-live the good old days, or score one more or any of that. Too  much is enough?

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I remembered

It’s been  a long time since we saw each other, but I am glad she is ok. I figured she was ok from her Facebook page, we used to be FB pals.   I admit it was a long a long time since we last spoke, but I found myself going back to her page after a long time and looking at a picture to see what she looks like now. She still looks very pretty, and, since its been  a few years, she also looks mature and coming into herself as well.  If she saw me again, I wonder what would be the first thing she would tell me. Or me to her.  Who am I talking about? Some long time readers of the blog may wonder. Lol, I am not telling :)

 

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Don’t know

Here is an old one that I had saved off, from the Houston days.  When I fist got there, I didn’t realize that Houston had a sizable Indian community. Anyway, I met this 19 year old girl who was half Indian half Hispanic, so as you might imagine had some very exotic looks. Big brown eyes, mischievous smile, dainty mannerisms, quite nice overall. Even though she didn’t come from money she had class (You can’t just buy class you know, you either have it or you don’t) so I made sure I was on my best behavior. Things like good table manners, keep my hands to myself and not get too touch feely with here etc. Like a good little boy.  Cute body as well, and also had career goals.  So I was impressed. BUT: we ended up in bed and I proceeded to perform oral sex on her,  when it hit me that her nether regions had a potty smell. :(

That was a damper on future dates, so even though she kept texting I had lost interest. It was also during the phase of my life where I went through a different woman each week, so this was entirely my fault. Her nails were kinda dirty as well. Anyways, after she kept texting for a couple of months I just had to let her know I wasn’t interested anymore, rather than just trying to reschedule or get out of dates. She responded ‘If that’s you decision I respect it, don’t hesitate to contact me if you ever change your mind’. No drama, no nothing. Just pure class and dignity, even though I could tell she was disappointed because she kept texting and obviously wanted something from our liaison. Too bad I was ambivalent about her. Why? Don’t know

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Such contempt…

Sometimes I look for blogs from sugar babies, just to read something for its entertainment value and also to see some of the experiences from the side of the women.  I came across one written by a 20 year old college student.  I was a bit taken aback, I have to admit. Most of her posts were derogatory about the men she met.  She mentioned things like ‘Oh, I guess I have to suck on your flacid penis now’, or ‘I don’t like it when you touch me with your old man skin’, and similar expressions of pure contempt for the people she spent time with. So that got me thinking: Are these young women really that much turned off by their SD’s?  I suspect that some are, indeed, but hopefully only a minority.  After all, if these men turn you off that much, why spend the time with them. Sure, the gifts, trips, and money are good, but if I were turned off that much by someone, I would run the other way no matter what the money was.  Are these girls really that desperate for gifts?  Just one man’s opinion

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Creepy

I got an email a while back from this young lady who said she had met this charming sugar daddy, in his forties recently divorced. She admitted she was infatuated with him, and had an affair for about 6 months.  She said she met him through one of the sugar sites, but also told me that he still kept his profile active and she suspected he was still talking to other sugar babies.  She told me that she got another profile and would send him unsolicited emails to see if he would respond.  Essentially, she was so jealous and infatuated with this guy that she would to go the trouble to set up fake profiles and email him and basically stalk him.  Needless to say that, 6 months later I emailed her back to see how things went and she said that they had broken it off. No kidding

So here is a bit of advice on this topic for sugar babies (and some creepy sugar daddies too)

1. It’s ok to become very attracted to someone. It’s human. It’s natural, even if its just sugar, and the age difference is large

2. It’s ok to text and email to stay in touch with someone, within the limits of what is proper and reasonable (i.e. every few days or once a week)

3. It is not ok to stalk someone. It is not ok to insist to have a relationship with someone when the other person has determined they do not want that anymore and have clearly stated to you it’s all over.  To keep after someone is creepy (hence the title of this post) and in many cases even illegal

4. It’s ok to reminisce about the times spent together. But its not ok to keep trying to get back. It’s never good the 2nd time around. It’s ok to think about him/her. It’s not ok to insist to revive something that’s already dead

5. And it’s certainly not ok to attempt and trap the person by creating fake profiles and emailing them through the site, to see if they are ‘faithful’ to you, like that young lady did

The reason I say all this stuff in this post is that more than once I have gotten questions from SBs about their SDs and if ‘they still like me’, or ‘do you think he will keep seeing me?’ or ‘I emailed him last week but he doesn’t respond anymore. Has he moved on?’

So my answer is: If you are having persistent thoughts like this, you are in unhealthy relationship territory and should move on.  Take care of yourself first

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That diner

I was at drinks at a nice wine bar with friends. Maybe it’s weird but on the way back walking through Chelsea I passed by that coffee shop we used to hang out. She crossed my mind for a couple of minutes. I have no regrets, for the end of it. But she just crossed my mind, is all I’m saying

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