Don’t know

Here is an old one that I had saved off, from the Houston days.  When I fist got there, I didn’t realize that Houston had a sizable Indian community. Anyway, I met this 19 year old girl who was half Indian half Hispanic, so as you might imagine had some very exotic looks. Big brown eyes, mischievous smile, dainty mannerisms, quite nice overall. Even though she didn’t come from money she had class (You can’t just buy class you know, you either have it or you don’t) so I made sure I was on my best behavior. Things like good table manners, keep my hands to myself and not get too touch feely with here etc. Like a good little boy.  Cute body as well, and also had career goals.  So I was impressed. BUT: we ended up in bed and I proceeded to perform oral sex on her,  when it hit me that her nether regions had a potty smell. :(

That was a damper on future dates, so even though she kept texting I had lost interest. It was also during the phase of my life where I went through a different woman each week, so this was entirely my fault. Her nails were kinda dirty as well. Anyways, after she kept texting for a couple of months I just had to let her know I wasn’t interested anymore, rather than just trying to reschedule or get out of dates. She responded ‘If that’s you decision I respect it, don’t hesitate to contact me if you ever change your mind’. No drama, no nothing. Just pure class and dignity, even though I could tell she was disappointed because she kept texting and obviously wanted something from our liaison. Too bad I was ambivalent about her. Why? Don’t know

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Such contempt…

Sometimes I look for blogs from sugar babies, just to read something for its entertainment value and also to see some of the experiences from the side of the women.  I came across one written by a 20 year old college student.  I was a bit taken aback, I have to admit. Most of her posts were derogatory about the men she met.  She mentioned things like ‘Oh, I guess I have to suck on your flacid penis now’, or ‘I don’t like it when you touch me with your old man skin’, and similar expressions of pure contempt for the people she spent time with. So that got me thinking: Are these young women really that much turned off by their SD’s?  I suspect that some are, indeed, but hopefully only a minority.  After all, if these men turn you off that much, why spend the time with them. Sure, the gifts, trips, and money are good, but if I were turned off that much by someone, I would run the other way no matter what the money was.  Are these girls really that desperate for gifts?  Just one man’s opinion

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Creepy

I got an email a while back from this young lady who said she had met this charming sugar daddy, in his forties recently divorced. She admitted she was infatuated with him, and had an affair for about 6 months.  She said she met him through one of the sugar sites, but also told me that he still kept his profile active and she suspected he was still talking to other sugar babies.  She told me that she got another profile and would send him unsolicited emails to see if he would respond.  Essentially, she was so jealous and infatuated with this guy that she would to go the trouble to set up fake profiles and email him and basically stalk him.  Needless to say that, 6 months later I emailed her back to see how things went and she said that they had broken it off. No kidding

So here is a bit of advice on this topic for sugar babies (and some creepy sugar daddies too)

1. It’s ok to become very attracted to someone. It’s human. It’s natural, even if its just sugar, and the age difference is large

2. It’s ok to text and email to stay in touch with someone, within the limits of what is proper and reasonable (i.e. every few days or once a week)

3. It is not ok to stalk someone. It is not ok to insist to have a relationship with someone when the other person has determined they do not want that anymore and have clearly stated to you it’s all over.  To keep after someone is creepy (hence the title of this post) and in many cases even illegal

4. It’s ok to reminisce about the times spent together. But its not ok to keep trying to get back. It’s never good the 2nd time around. It’s ok to think about him/her. It’s not ok to insist to revive something that’s already dead

5. And it’s certainly not ok to attempt and trap the person by creating fake profiles and emailing them through the site, to see if they are ‘faithful’ to you, like that young lady did

The reason I say all this stuff in this post is that more than once I have gotten questions from SBs about their SDs and if ‘they still like me’, or ‘do you think he will keep seeing me?’ or ‘I emailed him last week but he doesn’t respond anymore. Has he moved on?’

So my answer is: If you are having persistent thoughts like this, you are in unhealthy relationship territory and should move on.  Take care of yourself first

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That diner

I was at drinks at a nice wine bar with friends. Maybe it’s weird but on the way back walking through Chelsea I passed by that coffee shop we used to hang out. She crossed my mind for a couple of minutes. I have no regrets, for the end of it. But she just crossed my mind, is all I’m saying

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You give me egg roll I love you long time

Here is a little story, from more than 20 years ago totally politically incorrect but here it is because that’s how trading floors used to be back then. And who are we kidding sometimes they still are.

This was in Hong Kong before it reverted back to the Chinese….
Anyways, I was there with my boss and we were taken out and wined and dined during the day. Our host, observing that I was squeamish about Oriental food I didn’t recognize went to great lengths to explain what each item was like fish eye balls, shark fin soup etc
After hours he took us to this strip joint and as soon as we walk in he told the manager of the store ‘These are my bosses from America if you don’t show them a good time they will fire me’. Well one of those fine ladies had a problem with foreigners and cried out ‘foreign devils’ and stormed off. Awkwardness ensued. Needless to say the manager was very apologetic, the girl companion was replaced by another one who also gave us a mediocre neck massage. Didn’t cost us a red penny either. Using our friend as a translator, we communicated that we were bored out of our minds after a few days there and we wanted some action. My boss said ‘Dave this 40 year old Thai is eye balling you do you want her?’ At the same time I was actually eye balling this Indian woman who was dancing on the counter in a bikini. Her look though was a but too wild like she could stab me in my sleep. That sort of thing.  I said ok fine and we all took them back to the hotel ‘The Mandarin’. She spent the night there and the next morning she said I should come to Thailand for my next vacation. I agreed and there is a great town there called Fukit which I always wanted to visit. Or is it Phukit? Lol
The door knocks and the boss comes into my room looking very concerned ‘David there is a very touch subject I need to discuss and I apologize for barging in here, but when we get back to NY you can not tell anyone especially not my wife what happened here last night.’ Of course I wasn’t planning to. But that was a very good business lesson that I still remember: Don’t fraternize with the employees and do NOT do anything sexual in plain sight. It can be used to gossip or blackmail later on.
The next day we flew to London where I was visibly sick due to some bad Chinese….
The Britts started busting my chops: ‘Is Davey sick? Awww. Whats the matter Davey did you catch syphilis in China? Is a skeeter on your Peter? And then of course the old egg roll joke that appears on the title of this blog. All the while I was trying not to laugh and still keep the contents of my stomach from spilling all over my Bloomberg terminal

One small detail: I do regret not taking the Thai and the Indian both at the same time that night

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Money that matters

Lets see..I think I have met 3 sugar babies that turned into escorts, by my last count
First one was ‘Legs’
Second one was a college student who actually tried to hookup with an agency but the lady who ran the agency told her to go back to her dorm room and reconsider the whole thing because somehow she seemed too sweet to work there. She never told me if she went through with it
Wait, theres more: There was another one, my first one ever in Texas, forget her name now but I do recall that she had a tatoo on her ankle. Later on she emailed me a link to her reviews on the erotic review site! She got great reviews and people liked the fact that she was new to the ‘business’. I wonder where she is now, exactly 11 years later…
And then there was another gal, Cass. Legs who met her, told me that she saw her picture on backpage. I don’t know if that’s true though, I was never able to find it
So that’s actually 4 so far not 3 as originally thought
And then the last one, with which I had an actual relationship and then later on she decided she wanted to do the escorting thing as well. She said she needed the money for regular expenses. I am not criticizing anyone who decides to do this, mind you.
I am just observing the notable number of girls that I came across in the past that decided to take all this one step further

I did a bit of research on the subject. One website said that these women are smart and empowered. Another one confessed that after a while it messed up how she looked at men, and she had a hard time getting a real boyfriend.

As for me, I couldn’t imagine sleeping with them again after they had done, say, 40 or 50 men for money. How would a man know if he is being with the real person or with the manufactured ‘front’  personality that an escort eventually becomes? That was especially true when I ended up seeing Legs for the last time
I felt a bit  strange when I slept with her after brunch. I still liked her though, even though it felt like a long lost friend in a daze kind of situation. Funny because she started licking my balls and putting them in her mouth but I am actually a bit squeamish about that. So she said ‘I have to remember that Montrose doesn’t like his balls licked’
And then, after we were done she had to rush and get dressed because she had just received a call from the agency. Someone called and requested an appointment with her!

Isn’t there a song called ‘Money that matters’? How true

As for me I am more of a believer of what an ancient philosopher said ‘Time is the most precious thing someone can spend’. Sure, you can’t buy food or pay rent with it but still…it’s valuable. And sometimes I ended up spending it with some of the wrong people….

 

 

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