I received an email from a reader of my book who recounted a recent experience of his. Here is the jist of what he said, I am summarizing his email, with his permission:
“Hey Dave, great book, great stories, and it got me thinking about my situation. I met this new lady through a sugar website and we went on a couple of dates which were a lot of fun and we hit it off right away. She then brought up the allowance so we started talking about that and it seemed like we were nearing an agreement. At one point during the discussion it became obvious she was seeing several other men. I didn’t really care because ours was not a serious relationship. But then she told me that she met them through tinder and okcupid. Which means that these other men were having her for free, and here I am having to give an allowance each month and each date? What am I? A sucker? I feel like a driver who is going to park his car and having to pay the parking lot attendant, whereas other drivers get into the parking lot for free. Are my feelings justified? What say you?”
That was his question, and he kind of stumped me, I didn’t know how to respond. One could argue that since they met through a sugar site, then the allowance is par for the course. He understood that and he didn’t complain about the actual allowance itself. He just thought it was an irony that he had to pay up vs. other NSA dudes who didn’t. So, I sympathized and advised him not to enter an arrangement with this individual, since was having second thoughts anyway, even though they hit it off.
While reading his email, this reminded me of someone that I used to know. For a while there she was asking me to help her out with some health insurance and other small costs such as transportation etc, which I did. She was then telling me she had one night stands with some other individuals (not sugar daddies). So I admit I felt a bit dumb. Maybe that feeling was like the case of this other guy who sent me this email
So now I wonder what other guys reading this blog think about this