A SB who was following my blog a while back sent an email saying she loved one of the posts that talked about the connections that may evolve between SDs and SBs. She said the following:
‘I realized the reason it became dangerous was because I could see him and think of him as a potential partner. It wasn’t at all about shopping or restaurants. He was a person I could spend hours talking to across the kitchen table and never get bored. Some of the best dates were just us watching movies or playing board games. Perhaps it was the furniture shopping that did it. Choosing out what pieces would go into his place and seeing it all there. It felt more like a space for us had been created than him inviting me to his home. Honestly, it was odd walking in the other day and seeing it all once again. It felt like coming back home’
She ended up moving in with her SD, who was in his 40’s and single. At first it was a move made out of convenience as she graduated from school and looking for a job at the same time, but then it became different. For a SB to even consider moving in with her SD was a big step anyway. I wonder if they are still living together. Here was a lady of 22 who split, for unrelated reasons, with her bf, and moved in with the older man. She had reservations about how society would see this relationship. She also had reservations about seeing an older man in such an intimate way and was concerned what would become of it in the future. After all, like she said ‘The future with someone her own age would be different than the future with someone 20 years older’.
I wonder what became of her