Its tricky because the premise of the relationship started as NSA and with sugar (gifts or allowances) involved. Then, over time it transitioned into something else, with real emotions involved. The transition is tricky. It gets into the gray area where you are spending time with someone like you would with a real gf. But then sometimes you feel guilty for not providing the sugar, and you feel like she thinks she is getting the wrong end of the stick. So on the SD side you have these real feelings which are sprinkled with some self doubts. On the SB side: you also have real feelings but then is she thinking in the back of her mind ‘I could be getting an allowance from someone else’? It was crossing my mind that maybe she was thinking about that. And that made the relationship a bit on edge sometimes, at least for me. Emotions don’t pay your rent, right? So then you try to find some type of balance: emotionally, financially, spending the time (the most precious commodity).
Some SBs have told me that after they start seeing their SDs more seriously they start getting jealous and set up fake profiles to spy on their SDs. They even contact them using these new fake profiles to see if the SD responds. Any SD’s out there: learn the subtle hints which are usually reliable. Inbox me and I will tell you how. I wonder how some those relationships have developed. Any readers out there who have turned into GFs from SBs? How did that work out for you?
Amanda, also featured in my famous book ‘Sugar Daddy Diary’ started feeling that it was going down the gf path, and she promptly pulled out. I never told her anything about feelings for her nor did we ever talk about that seriously. I wonder what would have happened if we had. Anyways, that’s history now.
College said once: If both parties agree, then why not go ahead and do it? You only live once. If it develops into a real relationship everything is better and not just sexually, but everything. I agree with that and that’s why I can never get over my relationship with her and will always remember it. What I remember the most is the affection I felt for her, and also the fact that I made a difference in someone’s life in a positive way (after all she was only 20). A difference not only from the gifts I got her but also the experience of having an adult relationship with someone and also learning how to think and how to face certain situations in life as well. Pretty valuable, I think.