As we know there are two ways for a SB to get her sugar money: either a monthly allowance paid at a agreed upon time of the month, or a ‘pay as you go’ type of payment. I have done both of those at various times and with various people. I admit that I do prefer the pay as you go, but that just because I have some trust issues. After all who is to say that the SB will not just pocket the monthly allowance and then take off never to be heard from again? I get emails from men who complain about exactly that, and it seems to have happened to several people. So SBs, don’t blame the guys if it takes them a while to trust you ok? Chances are, they have been burnt before.
When I first started in the sugar lifestyle I met someone and we were discussing the pros and cons of allowance vs. pay per meeting. She offered some pretty good insight to me and what she said has stuck with me since. This lady said that as long as the ‘pay per meeting’ method is done in a respectful way and not treated like an escort service, it is fine. And then once a more longer term arrangement develops and trust has already been established the gift can come in the form of a monthly allowance. So that is the method I used on several occasions.
Trust is an issue though, in all of this. Think about it: what if you agree on an allowance and then after receiving the allowance the SB decides to break it off for some ridiculous reason. Perhaps because of my profession and because we deal with finance colleague jackasses all the time (well, some of them are) I was raised to believe what the Romans used to call ‘Caveat Emptor’ i.e. buyer beware. Good advice for sugar, for business and for life in general.