Why did you try sugar baby relationships instead of just old fashioned affairs? Great question. Well, originally, as posted elsewhere on this blog, I fell into the whole sugar dating by luck, when a lady I was seeing long time ago asked me to help her out with a rent payment because she was running into some really bad times in her life. As a friend, I helped her out, but an interesting dynamic was created. I felt relly bad for her and the trouble she was going through so I felt compassion and helped her for some time. At first it really felt strange, to just give money to someone I was dating. Remember I was a sugar virgin before that. But after a while I became accustomed to the idea and what it represented. I always believe that money gives the control to the owner and the giver of it. Period. Think about it. Your boss at work controls you, to a certain extent, he/she pays you. I thought that by adding the monetary picture, I could retain some control of the situation and more importantly, control my emotions. Those used to run pretty wild when I was a youngster, so I figured that sugar may remove some of that. After all, who wants their emotions drained by relationships. We need emotions and the energy they carry for other realms of our lives such as trading lol.
I always thought about money in terms of what it can do or can’t do for us. It ‘buys’ a lot of things. For a while then, this approach worked like a charm. However, being human, I couldn’t help but to develop feelings for those I was seeing. So then, I ended up paying for an emotional relationship. It’s like renting a friend. Now that doesn’t sound like a good trade does it? So I ended it, in those cases. Perhaps I shouldn’t have, but once heavy emotions start getting involved on either side, there is to much room to be taken advantage of, in the sugar lifestyle. Imagine this: a man falls for this lady and she does not reciprocate. But at the same time she decides to take advantage of someone’s weakness and asks for more and more all the time. And the SD, because he has fallen for her gives more and more in hopes of getting something more tangible out of this relationship. Not a good trade.
So why did I keep sugaring? It was fun. But as mentioned earlier, money buys a lot of things, but there are also many important things in life it just can’t buy. Like what happens if you meet this great lady who does not get impressed by any of it. Then your sugar means nuttin!! And that is such a liberating feeling sometimes. It’s been a while.