Recently I was in Brooklyn with this beautiful Asian lady in her early twenties. While we were waiting for our BBQ order to arrive there were 2 white women checking us out, observing the age difference I am sure. And after we picked up our order and started walking away a group of 3 Asian women in their mid to late twenties were also checking us out and commenting to themselves. I saw them doing this when they thought I wasn’t looking. My peripheral vision is not that bad, actually. I really was not bothered by this at all.
I have also been in romantic settings, obviously with younger women, some people noticed, most did not. On one occassion, there was this one bartender than carded the person I was with and then turned to me and said ‘I know you are upset I didn’t ask to see your id’. I laughed out loud.
In my twenties I used to see women in their 30’s or even 40’s. Once I was seeing a 57 year old (I was 32). In those cases we would get prolonged stares. I remember once going into a restaurant near Harvard Square where I spent some summers with friends. What to do: of course pickup an older woman. She was 45, I was barely 24, we proceeded to our table and 3 other couples from nearby tables stopped their conversation and followed us with ther stare as we sat down. I felt so embarased.
So now, almost 20 years later, I wonder if any of these ladies feel embarased to be seen with a man in his forties.
I would like to take a survey one of these days